Do you have a fear of failure? Something that's holding you back? Here are the top 5 fears I see that keep people out of the gym and how to overcome them.
None of us has enough time. Between work, social events, significant others and kids when are busy people our age supposed to find time to work out?
Well, there is good news and bad news.
Bad news first: You are just gonna have to make it a priority. You are gonna have to make the time. It's not what anyone wants to hear but it is the unfortunate truth.
Good news? It doesn't have to be 2 hours a day 6 days a week. Some of the best results I have ever achieved were in 3, 45 minute sessions per week. That with some small changes to your daily habits can pay huge dividends to your fitness.
4. Getting Bored
I love training. I love lifting. I love wrestling and I love jiu-jitsu. I could spend hours doing any of them (in fact I do).
Guess what? Not everyone is like me. In fact, I would venture to say not many people are. Not many people like to feel sore and tired and achy all over due to their hobby.
If you want to be successful in your fitness pursuits you are going to have to find a way to enjoy what you are doing. Community is a huge help in that. As is a good Coach and programming that not only shows results but keeps you engaged.
Find something you love and find a Coach that will incorporate those loves into what you do in the gym.
I can promise you, if I had a Coach that made me run every day I would quit within a month. I just don't ever want to do that. So do what you love, and love what you do.
3. Wasting Money/ Not Getting Results
I hate wasting money. I have before. On fitness programs that left me in worse condition. On fad diets that made me fat. On a business consultant that brought me zero clients. I have fucked up more ways than a few.
That's a big part of why I do what I do. I don't like to see people wasting money on shit that doesn't get them the results they want.
You know what gets results? Consistent work, progressive programming, and great coaching. It isn't rocket surgery but it isn't sexy so a lot of people don't want to do it. They want the latest hack, trick, or end around instead of the things that work.
Yes, training and coaching are expensive. But it is a lot cheaper than throwing money away into another scheme to get in shape the "easy" way.
2. Getting Hurt
Getting hurt will always be a risk when embarking on a fitness journey. Any physical activity carries an inherent risk of injury. There are ways to mitigate this, though. Proper programming and good coaching.
Seeing a theme yet?
The best way to make sure you can stay healthy and continue to train is to have a good set of eyes on you and a good program behind you.
1. Looking/ Feeling Stupid
Coming from someone who can feel stupid doing just about anything, I know this fear. I have walked out of restaurants before because there was no host and I didn't know what to do.
Not knowing what to do always makes me feel stupid. So the gym is the ultimate microcosm.
You already feel insecure, trying something new, maybe feeling out of place. You are surrounded by heavy shit, weird machines, and a sea of strangers posturing and genuflecting.
A quick way to assure that you never come back is to throw you in the middle of the room and have you do a bunch of stuff you have never done before.
Success comes from showing up, again and again. Find a place that makes you feel safe and welcome. Find a Coach that provides you with a plan for success.
And no matter what, just keep coming back. Your dreams are just around the corner. If you quit now you will never get the chance to see them.
If you are in Brooklyn and want to see change this year, come see me at my new space The Forge Bk in Greenpoint/Williamsburg.
If you are somewhere else in the world and want to work together, shoot me an email or go to the contact page on my site.
2018 is your year.