Every time I turn around I read another article/ post/ self-help smoke signal telling people that they are saying yes to too much. Yet, I rarely see that as the case.
Now, before you throw the latest Tony Robbins meme at me let me explain: if you are overextending yourself and can’t find time to take care of your basic needs, you need to learn to set boundaries. This can include the practice of saying no. But if your first response to opportunity is to look at it as hardship, then you need to start the practice of saying "yes, and...".
Saying yes is hard. It opens you up to vulnerability and critique. Most people tend to say no, give the reasons why something is too hard or can’t be done and miss out on opportunities before they even begin.
I’m not the type of coach who likes to pressure people or tell them they need to do anything. I feel like my job is to facilitate action in others by providing a positive example and showing them that there are other avenues to change.
There comes a time, though, when we all need to face some harsh realities.
Your life is your responsibility. Your successes are byproducts of your work. Your failures are your fault.
The question I receive more than any other in regards to nutrition is “do I have to count calories?”
In short, it depends.
Weighing and measuring food is intimidating, time consuming, and can cause stress.
It is intimidating because we know what it is going to tell us; we eat too much.
It is time consuming because we now buy our food in “convenience” stores instead of cooking at home.
It can cause stress because we eat at irregular intervals and want what we want when we want it.
These are all just excuses.
Change is hard. It involves looking at oneself and admitting that maybe things aren’t working. That maybe reality isn’t in line with the narrative we have told ourselves.
The reality lies in the data. If you continue to consume more calories than you burn you will gain weight. So how do you know what your in/out ratio is if you aren’t tracking?
I work out at the YMCA a few days a week.
I like the separation of work and training and it helps me to set my mind to training and not training others.
It also gives me the opportunity to see how the general population “works out”.
If I could give one blanket piece of advice to the general populace it would be to...
I learned to lift from powerlifters and strongmen. It was an environment built around one thing: moving weight. No one cared about your six-pack, anything over 5 reps was cardio, and there wasn’t a razor among the group (they sure as shit weren’t shaving their arms). At the end of the day you gained respect by being the strongest mother you could be.
Training this way was important to my development. It taught me to control my fear. It taught me resilience. And it taught me that I am able to do things physically that I never thought possible.
It isn’t all thorn covered roses and bulldog puppies though.
If you have heard any of the Brooklyn Strong Facebook rants recently (you are following us on Facebook, right?), you’ll notice my disdain for a lot of the Mindset and Motivation “guruism” out there. Particularly as this relates to motivation. With 2018 in full swing and the energy of the New Year beginning to wane, you may find your progress slowing down and feel as though you have “no motivation”. If this sounds familiar, this article is for you. Here, I will outline how motivation really works and clear up some misconceptions.
Finding a good coach online can kind of be like finding a good restaurant in a strange neighborhood in NYC. While it's not a guarantee, a premium price is usually a good indicator that it at least won't suck. From there, though, it's anyones guess. There are a million and one choices out there and you never know who is good and who is full of shit. You could look at Yelp but you know that anyone who posts a review there is either crazy, unemployed with too much time on their hands, or both. So you go with the best looking sign and pretty outdoor seating and all you get from it is a mediocre meal and a nasty case of food poisoning. At least you didn't get Hepatitis.
It might not be easy but finding a good coach will change your life. And it doesn't have to be so hard. Here are 5 things to look for in a coach:
A question I get asked every single day is "so what is this online training?" I know it seems like some kind of mysterious sorcery but I promise it is really quite simple.
The first thing I like to tell people is that, as far as programming and nutrition coaching go, my online clients will experience the same process as those who are coming to see me in person at The Forge Brooklyn. We start with an interview to decide if we would be a good fit and to establish your goals and how to reach them. From there,
Do you have a fear of failure? Something that's holding you back? Here are the top 5 fears I see that keep people out of the gym and how to overcome them.
My Favorite Answer: Why?
I spend a lot of time in gyms. A lot of time. I have great opportunities to see a variety of coaches and trainers work with clients of differing shapes, sizes, leverages, and personalities. I often think to myself, “why didn’t I think of that?”. Many times, however, I just think “WHY?”